After nine years of marriage, Andrea and Chico DeBarge are going through a very messy divorce.
Chico Debarge ex-wife wrote a open letter addressed to all of his mistresses and allowed HollywoodStreetKing.com to publish exclusively through their website.
Here's The Letter:
I am a little disappointed by these women who think its okay to date, have sex, and consider a married man her boyfriend. More disappointed that she’d publicly announce it. Shouldn’t she have some shame in such a situation? I can see, maybe you made a mistake, but to carry on and take it public knowing when this man has a wife at home. Now to take it to a level of an imaginary status doesn’t irk me as much as does amuse me. See, that is a reflection of one seeking some type of validation and lacking self worth because it wasn’t good enough to be sleeping with the man, but it has to be this fairytale romance and that I’m” better than his wife” mentality that you have to pretend to be “more than.” Maybe “more than” should have gotten you the ring. You actually should be grateful to me that you did not have to suffer a failed marriage since women like you are like predators lying in wait. Don’t mind the children! We know that NOTHING will stop you.
I am disappointed that my marriage failed and with the women who participated with my husband to ensure that it would. I am thankfully through the pain and shame of having been with such a person who had no regard for his family.
Now the part that will make me rise is that you are now dishonoring the fact that there are children involved; MY CHILDREN! Do not think you will continue to belittle my marriage in the public eye without some recourse especially when my children are watching. They have and were a product of a marriage based upon love. I do recognize that word love is used in my behalf only so again; don’t twist the situation to benefit you. See children watch and they question, as mine are doing now wondering. The lack of consideration for them is making me emerge from the shadows and speak. You should have left well enough alone by keeping your affair what it is supposed to be; a secretive dishonorable act. Many of the other “more than” mistresses did. I didn’t find out about this “Price As Right Model” until after I separated but I am now completely aware of the fact that she knew about me. She knew I was living in Michigan in a home with my husband and children.
The fact is I married Dec 14, 1996 and did not separate from my spouse until 2005. Anything within those years is what they call an affair, fornication, cheating, etc. Pick a word of your choosing, it doesn’t matter, just another addition for the thesaurus. After the separation there were many of talks for reconciliation but without trust of my spouse and women, it was a waste of time.
I am coming forth to show my children that their mother did not allow these women and their father to do these things, and to let them know that I thought I was in a relationship with an honorable person. I did not find out about all these affairs until I separated and many started revealing afterwards. Thank goodness because the pain of what I did know was enough and God knew I probably was not ready for all the dirty details that were to unfold. My children need to know that I am not a doormat and that I have kept quiet to protect them and honor their privacy. I am a quiet, private individual who wishes not to indulge in these public displays of idiocy, but I am a MOTHER who will battle with anyone whom opposes the pride of my children.
My marriage vows meant something to me and I did whatever it took to make it work. I believed my husband when everything sounded so unbelievable. I stayed; I tried over and over again. My children are going to be left with the truth that I did what is right to save my marriage and it did not work out for us. My girls will know the blessings of being a good wife and the shame of being a Jezebel. My sons will learn how to be good husbands and the shame of entertaining Jezebel’s. What happened in my marriage is unfortunate but it will not be a trouble you have to constantly through in their face whenever you get a chance to sit down and write or talk about their father. If you’ve heard the word home wrecker consistently when people are describing you, then maybe you need to look in the mirror and instead of denying it, face it and deal with it. God forgives all and through him, I can forgive but again, I am a warrior and in my battle stance for as long as its necessary.